Are you struggling with intimacy issues in your relationship? Has that spark between the two of you suddenly gone missing? Do you get a sense that she is finding ways to avoid you? Worry not! Perplexed as you maybe, these things do happen. Intimacy problems can arise due to various reasons - from having unresolved differences to compatibility issues, and sometimes, also the ‘ex’ factor. But whatever be the reason, lack of intimacy is something you must not ignore as it can severely impact your relationship. Don’t get into panic mode yet. We have compiled a handy 5-point guide so you can say goodbye to all your intimacy blues.
1. Get to know each other better
If you are finding it tough connecting with her on an emotional level, chances are that you’ll have a hard time getting physically intimate too. Intimacy does not just feed on the physical attraction between a couple, but also depends on their emotional compatibility. So it would be a good idea to go out on a few more dates and take some more time knowing each other before getting intimate.
2. Talk it out
The word ‘intimacy’ is often confused with closeness on a physical level but there are several other aspects that many couples ignore. Often, unresolved differences or misunderstandings can play spoilsport in any relationship. These can only act as barriers and keep the two of you from coming together. So talk it out and clear the air before taking your relationship to the next level.
3. Pay attention to grooming
Another reason she is unwilling to cosy up to you could be because you pay very little attention to grooming yourself. Unkempt beard, body odour and bad breath are strict no-nos.
Picture this:
- You turn up on that long-awaited date night directly from office, all sweaty and tired. It’s sure to annoy her.
- The two of you start passionately kissing and just about then, your beard ends up irritating her and ruins the whole experience.
Without any exaggeration, lack of personal grooming too can lead to death of intimacy. A shabby beard and unpleasant body odour have spoiled many a passionate moment. So it’s time you step up your grooming game. Appear and be fresh when you head for a date. Keep a deodorant handy. And as far as your manscaping needs go, Gillette is here to take care of it. With Gillette Mach 3 you can effortlessly shave off the unwanted scruff and maintain a well stylised beard . And as we all know, a well-groomed beard only adds to your sex appeal and certainly won’t get in the way of that perfect kiss.
4. Move on from your ex
Many a time, one of you may not be over your ex and this maybe causing intimacy problems between the two of you. Baggage from the past can ruin many a present relationship. Well, if this is troubling you too, it’s best to have a cooling off period and re-evaluate what you want before plunging headlong into your current relationship. No point letting your past cast a shadow on your present.
5. Overcome performance anxiety
All men have gone through performance anxiety at some point or the other in their lives. Performance anxiety can act as a spoiler during your intimate moments and make you more conscious, thus ruining the whole experience. One good way of overcoming this would be to stop trying to live up to unrealistic expectations set by pop culture. As long as you are confident and comfortable in your skin and feel secure in your relationship, performance anxiety won’t trouble you.
Pro tip: Keep this guide with you at all times to be sure you’re checking the right boxes and bid goodbye to all your intimacy issues.
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