Sexolve 310: 'I Love Wearing Women's Underwear'

Sexolve 310 | Equal rights activist Harish Iyer gives advice on love, sex, and relationships in his weekly column.

(Trigger Warning: Some questions could make you feel agitated. Reader discretion is advised.)

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This week’s Q&As are below:

'I Love Wearing Women's Underwear'

Dear RainbowMan,

I am a 28 year old man who loves wearing womens panties. I used to steal my girlfriend’s panties and my mother’s panties and dress in them.

My girlfriend knows about it now and at first she found it weird, but now it is our secret sexual game.

I wonder if this would lead to me becoming a woman? Or transgender? Or is this the first step towards becoming gay?

I have had no interest in men per se.

I have kissed a man for a play that I was acting on, but it did not create any feelings in my mind of body. I don't feel attracted to men.

I also don't feel like getting an operation done to get rid of my penis.

I love my penis.

I wonder but if my actions of wearing panties are a symptom of the gay or transgender infection?

WonderMan

Dear WonderMan,

Thank you for writing in.

Not everything that happens in our lives has to mean that we are transforming into something else.

Sometimes we can look at things the way they are and acknowledge them for just that.

Your love for wearing women’s panties, is just that - your love for wearing panties. It doesnt have to be co-related to your gender or sexuality. At best, it could be called a fetish.

Sexuality and gender are not infections. They are caused by no bacteria or virus. They have no causative factor.

Gay men don't by default love wearing panties.

All transgender women are not woman panty lovers. You could be interested in some garment or the other.

And this is regardless of gender or sexuality.

Our sexuality and gender are not a consequence of anything, they are the essence of who we are.

You are gay or transgender when you know and ascertain that you are gay or transgender.

You will not “become” one, you cannot “become” one.

Much love

Rainbow Man

P.S. wear what you love, love what you wear. :)

'Will I Lose My Ability to Produce Sperms?'

Dear RainbowMan,

I am a 32-year-old man going through a bitter divorce.

I haven't masturbated or had sex for the past 4 years.

I think I will lose my potential to produce sperms in a few years.

And maybe if I don't have sex in the next 2 years, my body may not make sperms, so I may not become a father.

Can you please guide me?

Worried Man

Dear Friend,

Thank you so much for writing to me.

I am sorry to hear about your bitter divorce. Things can get sour when we exit from relationships. I wish you and your ex the best of health and a fruitful independent life post this marriage.

There are thousands of sperms that are produced by the testicles. If one would not masturbate, the sperms will find a way to come out - assisted by erotic dreams that lead to nocturnal emissions of sperm.

So if you are healthy and producing sperms regularly, you are in a young age and there is time for andropause.

However, do not take my advice or any other online advice seriously. Visit a doctor who specialises in fertility, and get them to check the motility of your sperms.

Give yourself some time away from your worries. Concentrate on your emotional health too.

Give yourself some time to rejuvenate and bounce back from the stress of divorce.

Smiles

RainbowMan

P.S. please visit a specialist

'Asymmetrical Breasts in Men - Possible?'

Dear RainbowMan,

I am a 43-year-old woman.

My husband is 45 and he has male breasts that are asymmetrical. Could this be possible? Is this some disease?

Wifey

Dear Wifey,

Thank you for writing in.

Yes, breasts could be asymmetrical in men, women and all genders.

You should however urge your husband to visit a doctor for a physical examination and further advice.

Love

RainbowMan