How much should we connect our self esteem with a breakup?

Connecting your self esteem to another person is dangerous in itself. That means your self esteem is not yours anymore. It is dependent on another person’s thoughts and feelings and actions and words.

What do I do If I can’t stop thinking about my ex?

As with anything that sticks in the mind, don’t resist the thought. Let the thought come to you and then ask it, “What are you here to teach me?” And then send the image of your ex-love and gratitude. Send them love, and then send yourself double the amount of love.

Why do exes suck so much?

(Laughs) That’s because exes know how to hurt us... And they know how to love us as well. But they aren’t willing to give us what we want from them.. And that knowledge is really painful.

When is the pain going to go away?

It might never go away. But pain is an interesting thing. There are so many beautiful things that emerge from pain too — learnings, lessons, understandings, depths, compassion, empathy. You may always think of somebody and it might always hurt a little. Over time, the sting will get lesser and lesser. But a loss is a loss.

Can you truly be friends?

You can, but you need to do the effort of moving through the breakup first. You have to give it time, for you both to meet as new people. And then build something that makes sense in that space and time.

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