Fathers are regarded as guardians. From helping out when their child needs academic help to being there for them when one is struggling emotionally – they are an integral part of our growing up years. I consider myself blessed to have a father, when I think of the many other children in the Valley who do not know whether their fathers are still living.
Shaista, Mehwish and Asha crave their fathers’ company.
Today, they cling to any shred of hope as they wait for news. Any news.
Assistance to fatherless children also comes from the Association of Parents of Disappeared Persons (APDP). Says Imad Nazir, an official worker at the organisation:
The organisation also provides the children with medical or psychological support, if they need it.
For 15-year-old Shaista Nazir Illahi, her father is a source of strength, even though he isn’t with her.
Shaista recounts the night her father was allegedly picked up by the Indian Army when he was driving back home late after a day at work. Her father – Nazir Ahmed Illahi – was a driver by profession, who was, according to Shaista, picked up by the army in Srinagar’s Bemina area on a summer night in 2003, never to return.
As she speaks, her mother’s eyes well up too. Says Shanaza Bano, a homemaker:
These days Shaista, her mother and her younger sister are looked after by Shanaza’s brothers in Chadoora in Budgam district. While Shaista’s younger sister, Mehwish, stays in Chadoora for her studies, Shaista continues to live with her mother at their place in Illahi Bagh and studies in a school there.
As she narrates her ordeal, Shaista pauses occasionally to brush away a tear. With every pause, a quiet descends over the room. Suddenly, her sister Mehwish breaks the silence as she enters with a cup of tea that she urges me to drink. She then sits, propped up against a wall beside her sister and listens quietly.
Shaista continues,
Being the older daughter, Shaista has matured since the crisis. Her younger sister may still make childish demands of her mother, but Shaista buries her wants deep inside of her, well aware that her mother can’t afford everything she craves.
The horror still continues after the death of grandparents. Those days are the worst, confesses Mehwish.
Mehwish, like her sister, has also found a way of communicating to her father through her diary. She started when she was 13.
Shaista still hopes to see her father alive. She doesn’t know whether he still is alive; she doesn’t have a grave to visit. Every morning she wakes up and searches every room in the house for him, hoping that he may have come back in the night.
On 2 August 2005, Asha Rehman (now 12) lost her father.
Asha Rehman is the youngest in her family and lives with her mother and four siblings.
After her father went missing, the family faced a lot of difficulties. The children were so young at the time that Asha’s two older brothers who hadn’t even passed their 10th board examinations had to go out to search for work.
She has now left her studies and goes to a local sewing factory where she learns to darn clothes.
Apart from two older brothers who are labourers, Asha also has two sisters, Shameema Bano, 25, who is married with a son – and Mariam Jan, 18.
Had Asha's father been alive, she and her siblings would have been studying and pursuing their dreams. But they currently work at young ages just to feed themselves.
Asha has only one question for the governing authorities – “Where is my father?”
The Kashmir Valley is today one of the most militarised zones in the world. With about 7,00,000 armed and paramilitary forces stationed here, the ratio of civilian to security personnel is about 1:7. The life and liberty of Kashmir’s citizens are currently governed by laws such as the Jammu and Kashmir Public Safety Act, Jammu and Kashmir Disturbed Areas Act, and the Armed Forces Special Powers Act, 1990.
Unofficial estimates put the number of disappeared persons between 1989 and 2006 at anywhere between 8000-10,000. A majority of those who’ve disappeared are young men, including minors; others include people of all ages, professions and backgrounds, many of whom have no connection with the armed opposition groups operating in Kashmir.
Although India signed the International Convention for Protection of All Persons from Enforced Disappearances in 2007, it has failed to ratify the Convention and only a fraction of the cases on disappearances have been investigated.
Although the number of disappearances has reduced in the recent past, the struggle for justice in existing cases continues.
(Sheikh Saqib is an independent storyteller from Kashmir.)
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