Picture this. You’re about to become a parent. Some reports are in, other tests are ongoing. You’ve made your plans as a soon-to-be parent and everything seems in place until... there is an unexpected problem. More conclusive reports reveal anomalies with the foetus. If it’s allowed to develop into a baby, there is a confirmed possibility of disabilities in the baby.
Now, would you go ahead with the pregnancy or would you terminate it? That is the premise of the first episode of Zindagi ke Crossroads, a ‘debate’ show hosted by actor Ram Kapoor on Sony Entertainment Television.
To begin with, you’d like to argue it’s your and only your decision to make. It’s a personal choice and nobody else, a parent or not, has a right to decide for anyone else how they wish to proceed with the pregnancy.
This is one of the many problems with Zindagi ke Crossroads. Aired at 8:30 pm on Wednesday, 6 June, the show explores the life of a young couple, about to have a child when they discover there is something wrong with the development of the foetus.
The doctor, who is also related to the couple, advises them to abort the pregnancy. The short clip about the couple’s life ends and the debate is then opened to a live audience. While an emotionally charged audience, some who are parents of special needs children, fights it out verbally, the viewer is left wondering - who are we to decide?
But wait, it doesn’t end here. To make matters worse, along with the live audience, the viewers sitting at home can send in their responses which are read out from a huge screen.
There is more - the promotion of the show ahead of its premiere included a print advertorial in a leading national daily. It placed the woman between two options - “playing God” (abortion) and “saving motherhood” (not abortion). There are your two black and white choices, ladies and gentlemen. It generously uses the word ‘baby’ and ‘child’ to refer to a foetus that is less than 20 weeks old, the headline even stating, ‘Mother Asked To Kill Her Child.’ There, in that sentence is everything that is wrong with the show.
No, it still doesn’t end. The advertisement shows a heavily pregnant woman, while in the show, the pregnancy is not only under 20 weeks, but owing to this is also within the legal time limit of seeking an abortion in India.
But I wouldn’t opine on this anymore and leave it instead to experts.
Dr Puneet Bedi, gynecologist and obstetrician, Apollo Hospitals, New Delhi, says that the solution here is not holding public discussions, but what he calls “non-directive counselling”.
There should be a difference between reporting and counselling, stresses the doctor. Informing the parents of the facts is reporting, but explaining to them all the implications of the pregnancy over a period of time and allowing them the space to rationally and logically mull it over is counselling.
Dr Rishma Dhillon Pai, President Indian Society of Assisted Reproduction and Consultant Gynaecologist Jaslok, Lilavati and Hinduja hospital, Mumbai, says it’s important to talk about these issues, but in a sensitive manner. It is important to ensure the conversation is mature and is held by experts - psychologists, doctors and counsellors.
At the end of it all, it is absolutely imperative to remember, Dr Pai stresses, that the choice is entirely of the woman.
She goes on to add that a woman in such a scenario would have her entire life ahead of her. As long as she lives, she will be taking care of the child.
Additionally, when you discuss such a topic in a public space and reach a conclusion by majority voting, you are damning someone who did not make that choice, asserts Dr Pai.
Yes, the country has moved ahead to talk about previously tabooed topics like menstruation and sanitary pads, yet putting up a hoarding about pads and another about abortion is just not the same thing, concludes Dr Pai.
The show might be well-intentioned, but it gets the execution and the action absolutely wrong. If its mawkish nature was not enough, the tone see-sawed entirely between sentimentalism and didactic voices. The rationality and sensitivity, away from the rhetoric that Dr Pai spoke of, was entirely missing. In this world of hits and misses, Zindagi ke Crossroads was definitely the latter.
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