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No Hugs or Kisses: Dos and Don’ts for Trump’s Meet With the Queen

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.

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US President Donald Trump is in Britain fresh from a confrontational NATO summit that featured stinging criticism of America's closest allies, but he's likely to tone down that stance when he takes tea on Friday, 13 July, with Britain's Queen Elizabeth II.

The President and his wife, Melania, are not expected to make waves during the meet with the 92-year-old monarch. Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson, who never visited Britain while in office.

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this file photo dated 17 October 1957, President Dwight Eisenhower (second from left) and first lady Mamie (second from right) are flanked by their royal guests, Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II and her husband, Prince Philip, at the White House in Washington.
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The imposing setting at Windsor Castle and the fact that his hostess is one of the most admired women in the world are expected to temper Trump's iconoclastic ways. There are also rules of etiquette for encounters with the queen, although they are less rigid than many believe.

Chief among them: Don’t get too affectionate with the queen, who does not expect to be hugged or kissed by guests.
Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this file photo dated June 5, 1961, Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II, centre, walks with US President John F Kennedy, right, and his wife Jacqueline Kennedy, as they enter an ante-room in Buckingham Palace, London, before a dinner given by the Queen in honour of the visiting President and his wife.
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In a meeting like this, etiquette requires Trump to wait until the queen offers her hand, then to shake it politely and move on. The same applies to Mrs Trump.

Neither the President nor the first lady would be likely to bow or to curtsy when they meet the queen, said Hugo Vickers, an author who has long chronicled the British royals.

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this file photo dated May 1977, US President Jimmy Carter, right, and Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II with French President Valery Giscard d’Estaing, at Buckingham Palace in London.
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"That wouldn't be required from a head of state or the wife of a head of state," he said. "He would be wise not to attempt to kiss her, and I don't expect for a moment that he will."

Trump said in a newspaper interview that he’s not nervous about meeting the queen, who he called “a tremendous woman.”

"I really look forward to meeting her. I think she represents her country so well," he told The Sun.

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this 1970 file photo, Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II, left, reacts with US President Richard Nixon, at Chequers, in Buckinghamshire, England.
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Vickers expects the royal visit to go smoothly despite the many controversies swirling around Trump's visit to the UK He says the queen will form an impression of the American president but will not share it, given her penchant for keeping her thoughts to herself and her very closest family.

"Whatever we think of President Trump, he is the elected president of the United States of America and he has been invited to this country and he must be treated with great civility," Vickers said. "The queen will obviously be very courteous to him."

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this Saturday, June 4, 1994 file photo, Britain’s Queen Elizabeth smiles, as she sits alongside President Bill Clinton at a dinner in the Guildhall in Portsmouth, England, commemorating the 50th anniversary of D-Day.
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There are conventions for how to address the queen. The Trumps will be expected to call her “Your Majesty” upon meeting her and afterward call her “Ma’am.”

But the queen certainly was not upset when South African President Nelson Mandela called her Elizabeth. Nor was she miffed when Michelle Obama put her arm around the queen briefly.

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this Wednesday, May 25, 2011 file photo, US President Barack Obama and first lady Michelle Obama welcome Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II for a reciprocal dinner at Winfield House in London. 
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Elizabeth, the longest reigning monarch in British history, has shown herself to be unflappable when the unexpected occurs. She is not known to show anger in public, and the only times most people have seen her show unbridled glee is when one of her racehorses performs extremely well in a competition.

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The public usually sees her in maximum composure mode.

She didn't complain, for example, in 1991 when poor White House planning meant that only her hat was visible when she addressed a crowd in Washington along with President George HW Bush — the podium height had been set for the tall president, not the diminutive monarch.

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this Wednesday, 15, 1991 file photo, US President George HW Bush escorts Queen Elizabeth II from the White House to a helicopter enroute to Baltimore to watch her first major league baseball game, in Washington.
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The queen is known to dislike revealing clothing, so it is expected that Mrs Trump will wear a fashionable but conservative outfit. The president is likely to wear his traditional blue suit and a tie.

Some standard rules apply — it's considered poor form to turn your back on the queen or to photograph her. Still, the days when there was a "proper" or "improper" way to hold a tea cup disappeared at about the time of the Beatles.

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this Sunday, June 15, 2008 file photo, Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II and Prince Philip, the Duke of Edinburgh, pointing, walk with US President George Bush and his wife Laura, in St George’s Hall, Windsor Castle, in Windsor, England.
(Photo: AP)

"Those days are long gone," said Joe Little, managing editor of Majesty magazine. "As long as he doesn't drink it out of the saucer. That's sort of a British, a London tradition, but it's frowned upon."

He said the entire event will be much more relaxed than a formal banquet or lunch.

It will not be a prolonged visit, like the one in 1982 that was long enough to allow Ronald Reagan to go horseback riding with the queen.

Elizabeth has met every US president since Dwight Eisenhower with the exception of Lyndon Johnson.
In this June 8, 1982 file photo, US President Ronald Reagan, on Centennial, and Britain’s Queen Elizabeth II, on Burmese, go horseback riding in the grounds of Windsor Castle, England.
(Photo: AP)

There is one thing the Trumps should keep in mind, however: If you don't like dogs, pretend that you do, even if it's only for an hour.

(The story has been published in n arrangement with Associated Press.)

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