Coming out Placed the Weight of Judgement on My Chest: Lilly Singh

Lilly Singh talks about what the past year has been like for her since she came out as bisexual.

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YouTube star Lilly Singh on coming out as bisexual. 
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YouTuber and now late night talk show host Lilly Singh came out as bisexual last year. A year later, in an emotional post Lilly talked about how she dealt with it over the past year.

Firstly, I’ve learned that there is nothing more important than living your truth. It’s scary, it’s nerve wrecking and often times it’s painful but ultimately it is worth it. Period. But this post isn’t just about the bright side, it’s about raw truth. Coming out was one of the scariest experiences of my life. I’d love to tell you that everyone was supportive and that people didn’t treat me differently but I’d be lying. Even if I ignore the actions of others and focus on myself, admittedly dealing with the warfare in my mind has been hard. Coming out lifted a weight off my shoulders but at the same time it placed the weight of judgement on my chest. Maybe that’s the culture I was raised in or maybe it’s all in my head but either way for me it’s real. I’m so happy that my coming out has inspired so many people but at the same time I am not oblivious to the fact that some find my truth disappointing or not ideal. Whether I agree with them or not, I can’t deny that those energy waves have made me feel insecure more than once in the past year.
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It’s been 1 year since I mustered up the courage to share my truth with some of my dearest friends. When I decided to come out on social media earlier this year, I did so through a very pointed post. Having shared so much of my life with an audience for so long, this is one aspect of my life I didn’t want to explain. That is what felt right and authentic to me. Having said that, it’s been a year and now I do feel compelled to share a few thoughts with those willing to read them. Firstly, I’ve learned that there is NOTHING more important than living your truth. It’s scary, it’s nerve wrecking and often times it’s painful but ultimately it is worth it. Period. But this post isn’t just about the bright side, it’s about raw truth. Coming out was one of the scariest experiences of my life. I’d love to tell you that everyone was supportive and that people didn’t treat me differently but I’d be lying. Even if I ignore the actions of others and focus on myself, admittedly dealing with the warfare in my mind has been hard. Coming out lifted a weight off my shoulders but at the same time it placed the weight of judgement on my chest. Maybe that’s the culture I was raised in or maybe it’s all in my head but either way for me it’s real. I’m so happy that my coming out has inspired so many people but at the same time I am not oblivious to the fact that some find my truth disappointing or not ideal. Whether I agree with them or not, I can’t deny that those energy waves have made me feel insecure more than once in the past year. For so many years I lived with the privilege of relating to every love song & rom com and now that my place on the spectrum has shifted, I realize how sad it is that not everyone can. Why am I sharing all of this? Because over the past year I learned the power of being kind to other people even if they’re different. Every friend and family member that reached out to me with words of encouragement, you don’t realize how much that meant to me during an uncertain time. TL;DR life is tough enough for the LGBTQ+ community and various other communities. Kindness, compassion and humanity can go a really long way. Add light, not darkness. Love each other ❤️

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Lilly has over 14 million followers on her YouTube channel which she started in order to battle depression and anxiety. Over time she has used the platform as a way of spreading happiness through the lighter content she does and even talking to those battling depression.

Lilly Singh on battling depression and anxiety.
Lilly Singh on battling depression and anxiety.
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The Indian-Canadian YouTube star continues to inspires millions around the globe with the way she battles stereotypes and judgment that comes with belonging to the queer community. She is NBC's first female late night host which only goes to show how talented she is. Not just that, she has always been about creating a safe space for those who wish to talk about their inhibitions whether it's related to sexuality, mental illness or stereotypes.

For so many years I lived with the privilege of relating to every love song and rom com and now that my place on the spectrum has shifted, I realise how sad it is that not everyone can. Why am I sharing all of this? Because over the past year I learned the power of being kind to other people even if they’re different. Every friend and family member that reached out to me with words of encouragement, you don’t realise how much that meant to me during an uncertain time.
Lilly Singh on Instagram

Her late night show A Little Late Night with Lilly Singh is all set to premiere on 6 September.

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