Why Do People Ghost & How To Avoid Being Ghosted: Bumble's Tips This Halloween

This Halloween, let's do away with ghosting.

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Why Do People Ghost & How To Avoid Being Ghosted: Bumble's Tips This Halloween

It’s that time of the year again when ghosts, spirits and other kinds of spooky elements enter our lives with much fanfare. While we may enjoy a little bit of ghost tripping around Halloween, nobody likes the actual deed of ghosting in dating situations, no matter what time of the year it happens in.

Ghosting is an unfortunate reality of our dating lives and a lot of us don’t always know the real reason as to why we get ghosted while dating someone.

To understand why ghosting remains so prominent in dating, Bumble, the women-first dating and social networking app, commissioned a study that found 1 in 5 (21%) Indians who were surveyed who are currently dating or have dated before said that they have been ghosted while dating.

16% of respondents who have been ghosted said they are most likely to get ghosted after a few dates and 14% of respondents who have been ghosted said that they are most likely to get ghosted after confirming being in a relationship.

In fact, over 1 in 10 (11%) respondents who have been ghosted said that it can even happen in the middle of an in-person date. 

So why do people ghost someone they're dating? According to Bumble’s study, 27% of Indians surveyed said that silence was better than hurting someone’s feelings and 23% of respondents claim that they wanted to avoid an awkward conversation which is the second most popular reason for ghosting someone while dating. 

"At Bumble, we strongly discourage ghosting and believe that it is always better to have an honest and kind conversation if you'd like to not explore a new connection further, or end a relationship," shares Samarpita Samaddar, India Communications Director, Bumble.

A quick, kind and simple text can help to say that you’re not interested in a graceful and mature way that will leave the both of you with closure and minimal hurt feelings. If you have experienced ghosting and it has impacted your confidence or made you feel disheartened, know that it probably has little to do with you and that most likely your connection has poor communications skills. Move on knowing that they weren’t right for you - there are plenty more people on Bumble who would love the chance to get to know you!” she added. 


Bumble’s Relationship Expert Shahzeen Shivdasani shares tips on how to avoid ghosting

If the spark is just not there:

When you are getting to know someone, you may feel that you are not compatible after speaking to them for a while. Perhaps, you felt a vibe while chatting with them but you have not felt any spark. Instead of disappearing on them, try saying, “While I have loved getting to know you,  I just don’t really feel a spark or see this connection progressing”. Remember that this early on, you’re not obligated to explain yourself any further. There’s no need to expand on why you don’t feel a spark or why you want to end things here. You can conclude the message with a simple, friendly indication that this relationship has run its course. 

Your personalities and lifestyles don’t align:

While opposites may attract but that's not always the case. Adjusting to different lifestyle choices may not be for you or your personalities might be very different for you to be compatible. In such situations, instead of ghosting someone, try saying, “I am looking for someone whose personality or lifestyle is more aligned with mine”.  

There is no romantic connection:

At times, even though everything seems great, you may just not be romantically interested. You might meet someone great and be really good friends with but you don't have the heart to tell them that you're not invested in this as much as them. Instead of ghosting them, try saying, “I don’t see a romantic connection here, but I do still want to be friends if you are open to it”. The good news is that rejecting someone with kindness can also be as simple as saying, “Thank you for the fun date, but I’m not feeling a romantic connection.” Even if they don’t react exactly how you want them to, you can feel good about being direct and making a clean break.  

You don’t want a serious relationship:

You might not be seeking a serious relationship at the time that your connection is. If such a situation arises and you know that it is best for you to not get serious but the other person is getting serious, be clear and let them know the truth with "It’s been great knowing you, however, I am not looking for a serious relationship at this time."

**This research was commissioned by Bumble and conducted by Censuswide across India with a sample of 2000 single adults between August 12-17, 2022. 

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