Breaking Away From Norms, Sikh Bride’s Mother Performs Rituals

The rituals traditionally carried out by men were performed by the bride’s mother.

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Harnoor Grewal’s wedding rituals were carried out by her mother. (Photo Courtesy: <a href="">Gurvir Johal Photography</a>)

London’s Hernoor Grewal was raised by her mother after her father left their family some years back. The community was quick to blame her mother for their ordeal but she stood strong and raised her five daughters on her own terms.

She taught her girls to be independent and not depend on a man for their happiness or financial stability.

Grewal recently tied the knot in a Sikh ceremony where traditionally all the rituals are to be carried out by a male member of the family.

Instead of asking a relative, she pushed for her mother to take on the role.

More Power to Women!

"Since the South Asian Community is heavily patriarchal, we wanted to highlight the particular emphasis on empowering women in our community to live life on their own terms, free from the pressure to conform to the expectations the South Asian community place on us women," Grewal told HuffPost India.

It is usually the father, brothers or other male members who escort the bride to the darbar hall for the wedding ceremony but Grewal’s twin sister and mother walked her in.

Her mother had also performed the rituals during her elder sister’s wedding in 2013 but this time, the sisters decided to share her story publicly which went viral on social media.

(With inputs from The Huffington Post)

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