‘Men’Tality Part 1: Between Being a Darling and a Douche

The idea of masculinity needs to depart from the archaic ‘black & white’ way of thinking.

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Welcome to the Internet Approved Version of Masculinity 2.0.

Because masculinity doesn’t have to be measured by the inches of your muscles (although we tried to use muscles to get you to click on this story!). Neither, believe us, is it measured by how many fights you can pick.

Truth be told, masculinity is a delicate balance between gentleness and toughness.

Gentle because the notion that a real man has to be the flag bearer of suppressed emotions, inner rage, and explosive levels of testosterone is so 90s. That’s masculinity of the crippling kind – it doesn’t have to be emotional inertness disguised as toughness. That’s a trope popularised by pop culture that must go, to really set all genders free.

With life size posters of Varun Dhawan, Ranbir Kapoor and Shahid Kapoor subconsciously egging on men to get six pack abs, it’s time to acknowledge that men have body image issues too.

Also Read: Yes Women, Men Hate Their Bodies Too

He is either a darling or a douche: The idea of men’s emotions in relationships also needs to depart from the archaic ‘black and white’ way of thinking.

Because no gender is a monolith, where all those who identify with it can be painted with the same brush.

Also, about the dilemma of whether or not you should pay on a date, dreading being damned if you do, and damned if you don’t, simply know this: Such an assumption only upsets the gender balance and reinforces the idea of ‘men as providers’, an idea which is bakwaas for both genders. Actually for all three; I correct myself.

Camera: Abhay Sharma
Editor: Ashish MacCune

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