Thappad Se Darr Nahin Lagta Sahab, Slap Bet Challenge Se Lagta Hai

Why you should not share the video of the young boys giving their schoolmate a tight tamacha

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A screengrab of the video showing kids of Pathways School, Noida, giving a schoolmate a tight slap that caused a 25% loss to his hearing
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Thappad se darr nahin lagta sahab... Par slap bet se zaroor lagta hai.

You would be scared too, if you saw this particular clip, which shows a school going kid being given a zor ka thappad by his classmate.

Ahh, bullying – well, that’s what you would’ve thought. But no! If you go beyond the surface, you’ll find that this is a bunch of young dudes displaying their inflated sense of masculinity by giving their schoolmate a tight tamacha as part of some slap bet challenge.

This happened at Pathways School, Noida, and this resulted in the boy suffering from a 25% hearing loss.

Not a New Thing

The slap bet episode on <i>How I Met Your Mother </i>
The slap bet episode on How I Met Your Mother
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Lovers of the cult show, How I Met Your Mother, would recall that it had a similar cringeworthy episode in Season 2 wherein the protagonists of the show would slap each other randomly.

An interesting Reddit thread has users discussing their slap bet challenge experiences.

A video uploaded on Military.com shows two members of the US Army taking a slap bet in Afghanistan.

Well, it’s not just in the pop culture or social media, but peeps in my newsroom too, have mention instances of being slapped/ slapping someone/ seeing similar slaps happen in their school ecosystem. The only difference – it can now be shared online.

To Share or Not to Share?

Since the video was uploaded more than 19 hours ago, there have been over 18,000 shares of the Pathways School slap video. But psychologist Madhumati Singh cautions against making it more ‘viral’ than it already is, as it ends up impacting young individuals who have a high degree of suggestibility.

For instance, in this case, a bully might end up thinking he can one up this type of behavior with an even greater sadistic challenge. Or another kid might think that he can portray an even higher degree of masculinity by showing off a higher threshold for pain.

Singh, who also works as a school counsellor, informs us that nowadays, kids in Delhi NCR (and says this trend could be pan India as well) are playing many variations of the dare game – where they are challenging each other with dares like saying something nasty to a teacher.

Bas Karo Yeh Masculinity Kay Staid Notions

Guys, toughness is not in the punches. Also, you don’t always have to be tough. Image used for representational purpose.&nbsp;
Guys, toughness is not in the punches. Also, you don’t always have to be tough. Image used for representational purpose. 
(Photo: iStock)

While we are discussing the behavior of these young boys, let us also take a moment to question these staid notions of masculinity – about men being tough and not showing their vulnerability at any given moment. Or having to be aggressive and sadistic and humiliating to a fellow man to fit into the pack. It literally hurts more than it helps. Toughness is not in the punches, doston, it is in the mettle you possess.

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