TN Single Mom Defies Custom and Gives Her Daughter Away at Wedding
When a boy and a girl decide to get married, the parents from both sides play immensely consequential roles. However, a single parent ie. a parent without a spouse, is often not accorded the status and the say that they deserve.
Their presence or excessive activity in their child’s wedding, in the oft-flawed Indian tradition, is considered inauspicious by some. This diminishes their role to that of mere spectators, as someone else marries their child off.
However, breaking tradition and setting a delightful precedent, a single mother, in Tamil Nadu, decided to perform her daughter’s Kanyadaanam. A photograph from the wedding, clicked by Varun Suresh, has gone viral on Facebook along with an appreciation post by Aravindan Sudarshan.
In the photograph, the bride can be seen sitting on her mother’s lamp, while the groom performs the ritual of tying a necklace around her neck.
Speaking to TNM, the mother Rajeshwari Sharma shares the earnestness with which she decided to be the one giving her daughter away, despite custom.
According to the TNM report, Rajeshwari Sharma had gotten married at 21 to a man 12 years older. 17 years later when they mutually decided to end their marriage, Rajeshwari had two children and was also doing a full time job and her husband was not an active part of the family.
Admiring Rajeshwari’s decision to play such an active role in her daughter’s wedding despite an absent spouse, Aravindan Sudarshan writes in his Facebook post:
Rajeshwari’s decision to defy custom comes as a breath of fresh air, and the photograph stands testimony to the fact that the bride and the groom could not have had a happier wedding.