This Valentine’s Week, Here Are 7 Kickass Ways to Love Yourself
Repeat after me – I love myself.
Let’s face it, being alone is almost always equated with being lonely. Sometimes it almost feels like you’re a social pariah if you’re single. For all those of you reading this and nodding your head in self-pity, I just have to say this – it is the most powerful thing in the world to not look for love and validation from someone else. Why expect someone else to love you when you can’t even love yourself?
It’s all about self-service, ain’t it? How about a big heaping dose of some good ol’ lovin thyself this year? Courtesy Y.O.U. here’s a starter kit.
Music, Bath Salts and Some Unabashed Singing
Had a rough day? Hell, had a rough year? Nothing like a spot of self-indulgence. Go in for a digital detox. Unhook your phone, unplug the TV, get off Facebook, Instagram and whatever the hell is making you crave validation from strangers. Put on some music and draw yourself a warm bath and just sing out loud! Singing your heart out is a great way to let go of toxic mental waste.
Think Right, Be the Diva
Fake it till you make it. Even if you don’t believe in those three little magic words, say them to yourself everyday. And one day you’ll start believing it. The way you dress, the people you hang out with, the money you earn, or success does not make you a diva. It’s quite simply a state of mind. Repeat after me – I am not responsible for the voices in other people’s heads. Go on bring out your inner Sasha Fierce!
Eat, Make a Mess, Be Happy
One of life’s guiltiest pleasures is making a pig of yourself in bed. Nothing makes me happier than being deliciously disgusting, stuffing my face with pizza, watching drool worthy Anthony Bourdain being sexy in different parts of the world. Ah pure Nirvana. Your kicks might not involve such illustrious activities, but start showing yourself some love by doing what makes you happy.
To Befriend, or Not to Befriend: It’s Your Call
Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by a**holes.
Who you decide to surround yourself with has an impact on you. Instead of being a people pleaser, learn to use the delete button on ‘friends’ who reserve their narrow-minded judgement for you.
There’s a word in Hawaiian called ‘Ohana’ which means family. Family doesn’t only mean those related by blood. Build yourself a community of kindred spirits who are family in their combined support. The kind who will tell you how great you are when you forget to put the reminder on that one.
Answer to Your Wanderlust
A friend once said you never truly know who you are till you’re in a strange place. I recommend traveling solo and to places as far away from your comfort zone. Celebrating differences, meeting people who are like you, opening yourself to strange, tastes, sights and sounds. Traveling alone builds self-reliance. When you come back from one of these trips, you’ll be better equipped to take life by the horns. You’ll learn to tell your own story instead of waiting for others to write your life’s script.
Learn to say Thank You. Pretend every night is Oscar night. And you’re taking centrestage. If that’s too OTT for you, try keeping a gratitude journal. Whatever it takes to be grateful for the good things in life. You know that whole glass is half full not half empty logic.
Learn to love your own company. If you don’t like it, you must be pretty lousy to hang with! Turn the volume to ‘are you crazy’ levels and do your ‘thang’ in front of the mirror. It’s oddly refreshing. Or you could curl up with a great book and fix yourself a glass of your favourite tipple.
At the risk of sounding Machiavellian, the means justifies the end. It doesn’t matter what it takes to make you happy as long as you’re the one in the driver’s seat of that ride.
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