These Firang Couples Know a Far Different India Than You and I

There is more to this country than just the ‘Incredible India’ tag – find out these feisty foreign travellers.

For New York’s Adrienne and Andrew McDermott, coming to India was a no-brainer as it was one of the most mysterious countries they’d heard of. (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

The first thing you notice in this pic is the big (50m) Virupaksha temple. But what is the second thing you notice....... The four men taking a piss by the wall of the temple grounds (not just one or two, but four). In Hampi you can’t eat meat or buy a beer due to its religious significance, but pissing against the wall of the temple is just fine! To make matters worse, just out of shot to the right were some public toilets. Why?!? Why not use the f**king toilets!

When Londoners David and Katherine read the book Shantaram, they knew they had to visit India to see what Gregory Roberts had written so vividly about.

The duo soon realised that India, like any other country, was more than just ‘incredible’. (Photo Courtesy: David and Katherine)

But once here, the duo – like many other tourists who visit India – discovered that there was more to it than merely being ‘incredible’.

As one of their Instagram posts go (read above), it seems like they have a few suggestions for the Indians living in Modi’s ‘Swachh Bharat’.

An Incredible India Through Foreign Eyes

Amritsar’s Golden Temple was right up there on the list for David and Katherine. (Photo Courtesy: David and Katherine)

The couple, who quit their jobs to travel the world, has been in India since August and covered close to 20 cities and towns already. David has seen Machu Picchu, the Great Wall of China, the Great Barrier Reef and Christ the Redeemer – but Amritsar’s Golden Temple is right up there on his list.

“Some amazing locals got us kitted out in turbans and took us out for an impromptu photo-shoot around town. It turned out to be one of our most enjoyable days in India,” he says.

The couple found it surreal to wake up on a houseboat in Dal Lake. (Photo Courtesy: David and Katherine)

However, it was Srinagar that surprised them. Having heard a lot of negative things about it, they found it surreal to wake up on a houseboat and while away time on a shikara in Dal Lake.

The duo stood out in the crowd when they went to watch a T20 match in Dharamshala!(Photo Courtesy: David and Katherine)

We watched a T20 cricket match in Dharamshala and that stadium, the local fans, were something else. The next day, we found our pictures in three different Indian newspapers. I guess we stood out in the crowd!

<b>Katherine, one half of the Instagram account ‘Travel in the mix’</b>

For New York’s Adrienne and Andrew McDermott, coming to India was a no-brainer as it was one of the most mysterious and perplexing countries they’d heard of.

Andrew and Adrienne had always wanted to visit the country because of its “perplexing” elements. (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

“In Delhi, we made incredible, lifelong friends who showed us the local lifestyle. Agra has the Taj and needs no explanation. We loved all of Rajasthan, especially the charming Udaipur. Mumbai, during the Ganesh festival, was nothing short of magical; Varanasi was beyond powerful, intense and gorgeous. As for Dharamshala, you can’t go wrong with a city in the mountains, riddled with monks and easygoing travellers; it was operating in slow motion compared to the other cities!” says the 26-year-old Adrienne who left a tech start up and started travelling with her husband Andrew.

Adrienne loved all of the places she visited in India. (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

“Indians Stalk Us”

On the flipside, the couples were wary of the attention they got; people interrupted them for selfies, stalked them in monument complexes and scammed them.

The foreigner couples are tired of being scammed all the time. (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

On our first day in India, we were taken to three fake ‘official tourist offices’ in Delhi. The number of times we have been quoted crazy prices for short journeys by auto drivers is unreal. And yes, we are completely bored of being invited to drivers’ friends’ shops.

<b>David,</b> <b>one half of the Instagram account ‘Travel in the mix’</b>

The India visit hasn’t been all a bed of roses. (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

“Being clicked without consent was intimidating and concerning at times because you really don’t know what their intentions are,” explains Adrienne.

Swachh or Not

The flipside they encountered? A lack of cleanliness. (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

The couples agree that in India, most people struggle with a lack of cleanliness. “In between the air pollution from vehicles, human defecation and trash riddled streets, it’s definitely not a country for everyone,” Adrienne quips.

The tourist infrastructure can be a bit of a hit and miss, feels Katherine. Basic things like signs directing you to tourist attractions can be non-existent or navigating the train platforms can be tricky.

The duo feel the tourism board here should be doing more to promote the country. (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

“India should be attracting more tourists than it does. The tourist board here should be doing more to promote it.”

Women Aren’t Safe

David expresses shock at the treatment of women by men in India.

We come from a country where men and women are equal. When we first got to Delhi, we just couldn’t understand where all the women were! It felt like 90% of Delhi’s population was men. The inequality between men and women is staggering. The number of young intelligent Indian women we have talked to that just don’t go outside when it is dark, is really concerning.

<b>David,</b> <b>one half of the Instagram account ‘Travel in the mix’</b>

“When we first got to Delhi, we just couldn’t understand where all the women were!” (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

To female travellers, Adrienne suggests covering up.

“Wear pants and tops that veil your shoulders and chest. It’s hot and humid, so you’ll desperately want to wear shorts and tank tops, but don’t. Also, don’t get too friendly with men. Most of them are harmless, but the few that I’ve encountered without Andrew by my side were kind at first, but quickly changed gears to forward, pushy and intimidating,” she explains.

Lieselot De Brauwer, a Belgian who visited India with her boyfriend Nico, agrees. “Its better not to travel solo or do something stupid in India; it’s a big country with all kinds of people. One should have a companion.”

“It’s important to travel with a companion in India,” feels a female foreign traveller. (Photo Courtesy: Adrienne and Andrew McDermott)

That said, the firangi couples vouch for India.

“An Indian SIM card, toilet paper and some research in advance makes India any traveller’s dream,” says David.

(Runa Mukherjee Parikh has written on women, culture, social issues, education and animals, with The Times of India, India Today and IBN Live. When not hounding for stories, she can be found petting dogs, watching sitcoms or travelling. A big believer in ‘animals come before humans’, she is currently struggling to make sense of her Bengali-Gujarati lifestyle in Ahmedabad.)